5 Steps from Dreams to Completed Goals

January 27, 2012 - Leave a Response

Photograph of Iceplant with fuschia flowers.Last week in my accountability group’s HOW I WRITE series, we posted 5 Things That Made Us Smile that week. This week’s topic is “Share tips on how you successfully set and accomplished a goal.”

I had a very specific set of writing goals in mind for last year and this year, with the RWA National convention in Anaheim for 2012. I’ve felt like I wasn’t getting any farther on my own and I needed some extra guidance and cheerleaders along the way. So that’s what 2011 was all about. Moving forward with taking baby steps so I didn’t freak myself out.

A few of my 2011 goals were intended to up my writing game (not in terms of craft, but in networking and path to publication):

1. Complete my manuscript (BHT for those following along).
2. Join Romance Writers of America (nat’l, RWASD, & Beau Monde chapter)
3. Submit my manuscript to at least ONE agent.
4. Apply for RWA PRO status.

1. Separate Dreams From Goals.

Dreams are good. They’re the moon and the stars. The most important thing to remember is that they have to be YOUR dreams and goals. If you’re doing them for someone else or they don’t exactly line up with your values, you’re setting yourself up for failure. Take the time to think about who you are, what you want, and why you want it. Don’t rush figuring those things out.

Dream: I want to be published author and see my book on the shelf.
Goal:
This year, I want to complete the first draft of a 90k Regency Set Historical Romance novel that’s suitable for Avon Books.

Dream: I want to take amazing photographs on purpose.
Goal: This year, I will publicly do a 366 (It’s leap year!) Photo Challenge with a couple of friends to improve composition and learn to use my camera without relying on the AUTO setting.

Dream: We want a comfortable retirement.
Goal: We need to accumulate X amount of money by a certain date in order to get a return on the principle that’s equal to our current income.

With the dreams, there are many paths I could take to get there, most of them involving a whole lotta luck.  The goasl, if they’re good ones, are going to be much more precise and can be broken down into tasks. A dream is what you want, but a goal is what you need to do to move toward your dreams.

2. WRITE S.M.A.R.T. Goals.

Have someone who knows you and what you’re trying to accomplish go over them and sanity check them. Skimping on this step just sets you up for failure. You can rationalize anything if you aren’t crystal clear about what you want to accomplish and you’ll find all sorts of loopholes, especially if you don’t write them down. Another thing that writing them down and putting them through this checklist can do is find and resolve conflicting goals. I don’t have exact dates for these goals above, but on my master copy, they had precise dates of which they were to be accomplished. I don’t think I went over by more than a week on any of them.

Are the goals [S]pecific? How are you going to accomplish it, if you don’t know exactly what you want to do?
Are they [M]easurable?
How are you going to know if you’ve done enough to complete it?
Are they [A]ttainable?
How are you going to achieve this goal? What steps do you need to take?
Are they [R]ealistic?
This is where having a partner in crime or accountability helps most. We often bite off more than we can chew and they’ll call us on it.
Are they [T]imely and/or time limited?
Do you need to do it now? How long do you have to do it for? Do you have a deadline? Even a self-imposed one is better than leaving it open ended. Make sure you know of any other steps that must be completed first.

3. Group Similar Goals.

Make sure you have all the steps necessary and the order in which they need to be done to achieve what you want.

I knew I wanted to be in the PRO groups for RWA in 2012. This means on the PRO mailing loops, attending the PRO breakfasts for my local chapter before meetings, and going to the PRO Retreat in Anaheim. I couldn’t just do those goals in any old order. Ok, the first two I could, but 1 definitely had to come before 3 and 2 before 4. A nice neat little stack of dominoes, if you will. They just tend to fall in slow motion.

You should also be thinking in terms of SHORT TERM GOALS and LONG TERM GOALS. You may also have some medium range goals in there as well. It’s often helpful to pick a date 5 or 10 years in the future and dream big, but true. Then, start dividing that time frame up… What do you have to accomplish to reach the that big goal in half that time? In a quarter of that time? In the next two years? In the next year? In six months from now?

4. Keep Moving Forward.

Keep your goals list handy. Check it frequently. When you’ve completed one task/goal on your list, move on to the next one. Celebrate your victory, but don’t lose your forward momentum. Love that motto from Meet the Robinsons.

One thing with keeping tasks/goals in a logical order for completion is that you don’t have to backtrack. Even if you aren’t planning to accomplish the next step in the current month, quarter, year, 5 years or decade, you should still know what you’re going to need to do to get where you want to be. You need to be prepare if your world suddenly shifts beneath you and you’re left without a plan? Or worse, you have a plan, but it’s irrelevant. By having a forward-looking plan that stretches out farther than you think is necessary, you give yourself something to work towards and you just might find you have to readjust. Likewise, the ground can shift and suddenly you’re back to square one with certain goals. Pick yourself up, dust off the plan and get moving. You’ve already decided you want to be somewhere better. Every journey begins with that first step. Take it.

5. But, Don’t Look Down!

Why do we set goals for ourselves anyway? We want to grow, to improve, to enjoy life more. If you shoot for the moon and miss, you’ll still be among the stars. Trite, but usually true. One way to set your goals up for positive change and increase your chances of success is to frame them in positive terms. “Losing weight” always seems to fail… why? It’s not will power, genetics or even that extra slice of cake. Ok, it probably IS the cake, but that’s a different argument. The problem is that it’s a NEGATIVE goal. Look at the wording… LOSE that’s not a positive word. If you want to lose weight you need to think of it terms of what you’ll be gaining and then find the steps to accomplish that.

If you are trying to set goals that push beyond your comfort zone, you need to sneak up on them. Make progress at a rate you’re comfortable with. If I can push myself to do something once, the next time is easier because it lacks the apprehension and built up fear the next time. This is why I made a goals of submitting to at least ONE agent. I gave myself permission to set the bar VERY low and not build expectations into the goal.

One of the PRO Liasons in my local chapter said to me today: “Just like, when you’re climbing up high, don’t look down. Keep looking forward so you don’t get overwhelmed by how far up you are.” I’m really trying not to think how fast things are moving, so I can keep up. Lots of metaphors would fit here — gotta keep those plates spinning!


YOUR TURN: What tried ‘n true tips would you recommend for setting and achieving goals?

And if you’d like to read more about goal setting tips from the rest of my group this week, you can find their blogs here:

* Alexia Reed * Kimberly Farris*
* Angeleque Ford * Danie Ford * Emma G. Delaney *

A Regency Primer on The Last Frost Fair

January 24, 2012 - 2 Responses

In the last entry in the Regency Primer Series we learned three ways to tie a Regency era cravat. This week, we’re going back in time to the last time the River Thames was frozen solid and the ships stood still and Londoners organized an impromptu festival in the middle of the river.

The Little Ice Age

Painting of London Bridge Frost Fair in 1814.

London Bridge Frost Fair 1814

Between 1408 and 1814, the Thames River froze over 26 times in great solid sheets of ice. During this period, British winters were harsher and the river was wider and slower moving than it is today. This period was referred to as “The Little Ice Age” as a description of the severe winter weather that characterized it.

Painting of the frozen Thames River off Three Cranes Wharf in 1814.The Frost Fair of 1814 began on February 1st, lasted for four days. No one knew it  was to become the last Frost Fair in London, but the previous time the Thames had frozen over was in 1795. The city was ready to brave the ice and celebrate with a sprawling festival in the middle of the river.

John Ashton described the frolickers of the Frost Fair in his book, Social England under the Regency. He mentions that they drank in tents “with females,” played skittles, and danced reels. He also includes depictions of more sedate coffee-drinking and gaming booths. Printing presses were set up on the ice to print souvenir cards. The Annual Register noted that the frivolity continued until the ice began to break up forcing people scrambled for safety, not all successfully.

Old London Bridge Demolished

The Frost Fair, 1814 LondonIn addition to the climate growing milder, Old London Bridge was demolished in the 1830s and the new bridge supported wider arches, allowing the tide to flow more quickly and freely past. Combined with the embanking of the river that occurred during the 19th Century, this sped up the current and prevented the Thamses from fully freezing over again.

The Frost Fair, London 1814.

The Frost Fair of 1814, by Luke Clenell.

Gambols on the River Thames, Feby. 1814 by George Cruikshank“Gambols on the river Thames, Feby. 1814″ by the famous caricaturist, George Cruikshank, shows a frost fair in the region of Blackfriars Bridge. As was his custom, no one was safe from ridicule and mockery. To the right in the foreground is a waterman with skittles and behind him a man’s wooden leg has caught in the ice. To the right is a printing press and in the center a woman has slipped on the ice next to a fiddler playing music as a couple dances.

Never Say Never

In true British fashion, in 2003 there was a revival of sorts of the spirit of the Frost Fairs of old. In Bankside, the one-day festival quickly grew to an event that spanned two weekends. The Bankside Winter Festival was modeled after the Christmas markets and featured many other events, including a lantern parade. Unfortunately, it looks as if 2008 was perhaps the last time it was held. I’d love to be proven wrong! It sounds like an amazing time.


More information regarding a variety of other Regency-themed topics can be found on my Regency Resource page. If you’d like more information on a specific place or topic, please let me know in the comments section below.

Interview with Victorian & Steampunk Author, Jillian Stone

January 23, 2012 - 31 Responses

***UPDATE: THE WINNER OF THE SIGNED ARC IS:
ALDEN ASH!!
CONGRATS!***

The cover image of An Affair With Mr Kennedy by Jillian Stone.To help kick off my new interview venture and to celebrate her debut release, Jillian Stone has graciously agreed to answer some questions. She will also be giving away a signed copy of AN AFFAIR WITH MR. KENNEDY (The Gentlemen of Scotland Yard) to one commenter today.

In addition, all commenters on this post will be entered in a special giveaway promotion: Jewelry inspired by the romantic notion of recapturing lost time as the French title ‘Le Temps Perdu’, specifically a Steampunk watch necklace from the Time Travel Collection by Yolanda Pang.

Let’s cyber travel over to Poetic Designs and see for ourselves just how whimsical this watch necklace is!

A Steampunk watch necklace from the Time Travel Collection by Yolanda Pang
The promotion for AN AFFAIR WITH MR. KENNEDY (The Gentlemen of Scotland Yard) begins here at Impulsive Hearts and Jillian will post the winner of the watch necklace on February 22 at Get Lost in a Story. Comment on any of her blogs or interviews and you are entered to win. Each time you visit a different blog and leave a comment your name gets entered again! For a schedule of her interviews and blogs go to contact/press on her website. Good luck everyone!

1. What drew you to writing Historical Romance in general and specifically to setting stories during the Victorian Era? Your other series is steampunk, what inspired you to write in two sub-genres that are so closely related but also so wildly different?

Regency seemed like a crowded field, and I didn’t want to write about the aristocracy. I also didn’t want to write a mostly character driven plot. I began to notice that a few romance writers were writing in the Victorian period. I was particularly drawn to the Amanda Quick novels, which were historical romance but also incorporated mystery, suspense and occult elements.

Then I got to thinking about Scotland Yard detectives. It seemed to me that Yard men were always portrayed as bumbling inspectors, five moves behind Sherlock Holmes. So I thought, what if there was an elite group of detectives? I began to do some research and found out that there was a division of Scotland Yard created in the 1882 called Special Branch. I added a dash (as in dashing) of James Bond Steampunk and that was the start of The Gentlemen of Scotland Yard. The heroines in each book are fascinating, progressive Victorian women. There is an Impressionist painter, an industrialist and a ballerina/jewel thief/spy!

Phaeton Black, my paranormal investigator started out as an exploration into writing historical paranormal with Steampunk elements. As it turns out I really enjoy writing paranormal, it works my imagination in interesting ways. There is something freeing about using pure imagination!

2. What’s the strangest bit of historical trivia you’ve picked up in your research?

As you know the Victorian era spans 75 years. I write in the late Victorian era, circa 1887–1897. I guess one of the most interesting things I uncovered early in my research was how obsessed the British middle class was with sex. They may have covered their piano legs out of modesty, but they liked nothing more than to talk about sex, categorize it, condemn it and in the case of prostitution, patronize it. In 1887, venereal disease in the military was down from nearly 50% to 29% The Lancet medical journal in 1887 estimated that there were approximately 80,000 prostitutes working in London. This is out of a total population of 2,360,000 or 3%. Women working the streets were a common sight, particularly around the theater districts like Leicester Square and Covent Garden. I love using this kind of research (and a black fog) to create atmosphere/world-build.

These next few questions assume that time travel is possible. So, if you could go back to Victorian England:

3. What modern conveniences would you miss most?

Just about all of them! What would you miss least? My Oral-B battery-powered toothbrush.

4. What would be the hardest for you to adapt to in the Victorian Era?

Women had very few legal and property rights. We couldn’t vote.We were admitted to university but could not earn a degree. I would be a placard carrying suffragist. Would you prefer to live in your steampunk universe compared to either current day or Victorian times? Absolutely! I would become an inventor of steam and clockwork powered machines of convenience!

5. Where would you fit into Victorian society?

I hope I would be tolerated as a bohemian/suffragist/artist/writer. Where would you like to visit most? Explore London from West to East end. Any historical figures you’d like to meet? William Melville, Director of Special Branch, Scotland Yard. Many of the writers and artists working in London and Paris, particularly the impressionist painters.

6. What describes your perfect Romance Hero?

I love to write different kinds of men, but one of my favorites is a brilliant, reserved alpha, who also happens to be a passionate lover. And of course we want to know…Who’s your favorite so far? Zak Kennedy or Phaeton Black? My favorite hero is always the one I am writing. So right now, Phineas “Finn” Gunn is my favorite. In some ways he is my most complex hero to date.

7. If you could, what advice would you go back and give yourself when you were just starting out as a writer?

Enjoy every moment of the process. Write stories you are passionate about.

8. You’ve been a storyteller for years, but took a side trip through an award-winning career in advertising and art direction. How long have these stories been bouncing around in your brain? Which character or situation came to you first that made you realize you had to write these stories?

Five years ago I decided to give novel writing a shot. I gave myself three years to write and market a manuscript. At the end of that period, I would reevaluate. So I spent a year on a medieval trilogy. Right in the middle of book two, I landed on this idea for a romantic suspense novel set in late Victorian London about a Scotland Yard agent––Mr. Kennedy. Both the character and the story wouldn’t let go!

9. Are you a reader? What are some of your favorites?

I used to be more of a reader, now I’m more of a writer! When not reading research, I read across just about all the sub-genres: historical, paranormal, some steampunk, urban fantasy and erotica, but I’m pretty selective. A few favorite authors: Gabaldon, Feehan, Kleypas. This past year I read Flowers from the Storm by Laura Kinsale––blew me away.

10. Your Victorian Romantic Suspense novel AN AFFAIR WITH MR. KENNEDY (releasing Jan 31, 2012) won the 2010 Golden Heart and sold to Pocket Books and your sexy, paranormal investigator novel, THE SEDUCTION OF PHAETON BLACK (releasing April 3, 2012), won the 2010 Romance Through The Ages Erotica category before selling to Kensington Brava. What advice regarding time management and work/life balancing can you share? What’s been the hardest to overcome and what’s made this wild ride manageable?

I have no advice on this subject as I am still trying to figure out how to write novels to deadlines, work on book promotion and have a life. Invite me back at the end of this year when I have completed the PHAETON BLACK books for Kensington, maybe I will have a few handy tips!

Author Photo of Jillian StoneJillian Stone was born a storyteller. A skill that got her into considerable trouble as a youth until she solved the problem by becoming an advertising creative. And the career did seem to suit her as she won many national ad awards including the Clio and the New York Art Director’s Club Gold. What more could she ask for? Create her own worlds? Become goddess of her own universe? Yes! So, she began to write fiction. Her Victorian Romantic Suspense novel AN AFFAIR WITH MR. KENNEDY won the 2010 Golden Heart and sold to Pocket Books. Her sexy, supernatural Steampunk novel, THE SEDUCTION OF PHAETON BLACK, won the 2010 Romance Through The Ages Erotica category and sold to Kensington Brava. Jillian lives in California and is currently working on the next adventure for both series.

Visit Jillian at her website or “like” her Facebook page.

Buy from: Powell’s | Amazon (Kindle) | B & N (Nook)| Indiebound


Your Turn: Jillian loves creating spyware, circa 1887 for the Scotland Yard detectives that is slightly futuristic, like a dry cell battery torch (flashlight) or a gun silencer. These devices were in the process of being invented so a prototype gadget was possible!

What is your favorite spyware gadget from a spy novel or movie?

All commenters today have a chance to win a signed ARC of An Affair with Mr. Kennedy and will be entered in Jillian’s blog tour ‘Le Temps Perdu’ Steampunk watch necklace giveaway.

2012 Photo Challenge: Week 3

January 22, 2012 - Leave a Response

In some ways it’s hard to believe it’s already the third week of our 365 Photo Challenge.

There have been a few days when I’ve wondered WHY I signed up for this, but I haven’t really had problems with finding a picture to take, even if I resort to my iPhone’s camera. I’ve noticed I’m starting to look closer at items or think about what kind of artsy type photo I can do that would be different and interesting. These are probably good things in the long run. What I need to do is find a camera workshop and run through the lessons.

What you see below are links to my flickr set for the photos I’ll use for this challenge. Click on any photo below to go to flickr and then you can navigate through the set with the “Previous” and “Next” arrows at the top.


Sun: Jan 15, 2012

Mon: Jan 16, 2012

Tue: Jan 17, 2012

Wed: Jan 18, 2012

Thu: Jan 19, 2012

Fri: Jan 20, 2012

Sat: Jan 21, 2012

5 Things That Made Me Smile

January 20, 2012 - 4 Responses

Last week in my accountability group’s HOW I WRITE series, we posted our take on writing advice and mine in particular struck a chord with readers. This week’s topic is “Name up to 5 unexpected finds/treats/treasures this weeks. Things that caught your attention that you may not have noticed normally.”

It could be a book we’ve read, a movie, joke, funny story, a quote, a commercial, a t.v., a compliment, etc – basically anything that happened this week that was out of the ordinary that made us stop and take notice and/or smile.”

 

1. How my kids still get out of the car at school and say “I love you” even in front of other students

This isn’t an unusual occurrence, but it did make me smile to actually notice it this week.

2. The strong smell of guavas that have ripened after they were brought to us to try

I’ve never had guavas before. Did you know they’re called “guayaba” in Spanish? I didn’t. They smell wonderful and we need to eat them soon before it’s too late.

3. How when it’s cold enough the hedges and mailboxes will “steam” when the sun hits them

Photo of the water vapor rising from a hedge in the morning light.Similar to how a pond will steam, but weirder. I dunno, I don’t recall noticing this when I was younger. It’s definitely from thinking “What am I going to take a picture of today?!” I’ve noticed that I get a lot of compliments on my photos (*whispers* you know I only pick the best ones, right?) but it’s not something I’ve been working hard at. It’s all intuitive. I’ve got to do some thinking on why it works for me with photography, but not writing, but I suspect it has to do with 3 factors: practice, internalizing some rules and quantity of output. I’ve thrown away far more pictures than I’ve written pages.

4. The way my friend answered the phone when she recognized my number”

I could hear the smile in her voice when I called to check up on her. She’s been sick, but brightened to know someone was thinking of her.

5. “Shit the Dowager Countess Says”

It amuses me that the hysterical comments that Dame Maggie Smith’s character on Downton Abbey says has basically turned into a meme. I love the way that character is written and how she’s played. Love her.


YOUR TURN: What have you discovered that tickled your fancy lately?

And if you’d like to read about what caught the attention of the rest of my group this week, you can find their blogs here:

* Alexia Reed * Kimberly Farris*
* Angeleque Ford * Danie Ford * Emma G. Delaney *

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